Don’t Trip Over Stupid

I had a moment today that really got my blood boiling.

Someone told me they’d complete a task earlier in the week and instead, didn’t get back to me until this weekend. I’m on a deadline and I expect people to keep their word. Unfortunately, this person felt no seeming remorse and worse, went on the offense to try to assert dominance.

My first reaction was a desire to bite back and put them in their place. My second reaction was to say some choice words about their lack of communication, lack of respect for my time, and lack of integrity for not keeping their word. And then, I stopped to breathe. Within my blood boiling moment, I had a moment of clarity that said, “Is it worth it?”

And honestly friend, it’s not.

Would I have felt better about putting them in their place and giving them a piece of my mind? Absolutely, 100% heck yes. But in the end, would it have brought restoration or a desire on their part to follow through in the future? Probably not. I’m not a person who cares about position. I care about respect – but you need to earn it. You need to be a person of integrity, character, and honesty, otherwise position means nothing.

So tonight, instead of giving them a piece of my mind, I’m choosing to respond kindly and then continue on my merry way. I can’t change people and it’s not my job to. I’ll continue to be a person of excellence and I’ll continue to keep my word, even when others don’t.

I’m not responsible for them. I’m responsible for me.

Once we realize that, life (and all the stupid things that happen) gets a lot easier to handle.

Take responsibility for your own actions and then shrug off the stupid.

You’ve got this, friend.

<3

Manda

2 Responses
  • Bobby
    May 22, 2017

    A few thoughts:

    1) I will never tire of reading your posts; they are always so rich and well written!

    2) The fact that you do not name names or even put a he or a she to your experiences as you write (in contexts like this blog) is very honorable and such a strength of character, which I highly respect you for.

    3) Just a thought that came to mind while I was reading that you can feel free to accept or reject – I think there are times when we should tell people how we feel when we are let down or hurt by their actions, and there are ways to do that while a) still maintaining our joy/sanity/kindness of heart and b) not responding in strife. As it says in Proverbs, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” I believe, sometimes, unless we share how a situation like this left us feeling, the person who treated us the way they did will never know why it was wrong and will simply repeat it more freely with others in their lives. But like you said, there are certainly times to just breathe, let it roll off, and answer in kind. 🙂

  • Blessing
    May 23, 2017

    I need to do more of that, it really puts things into perspective when you take the time to ask yourself, “Is it worth it”. A good portion of the time we realize that it isn’t worth it and we move on. I agree that we are responsible for ourselves, not others. Along with this truth, when I heard and chose to believe others opinions of me wasn’t my business, It changed my life.

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