I had a moment today that really got my blood boiling.
Someone told me they’d complete a task earlier in the week and instead, didn’t get back to me until this weekend. I’m on a deadline and I expect people to keep their word. Unfortunately, this person felt no seeming remorse and worse, went on the offense to try to assert dominance.
My first reaction was a desire to bite back and put them in their place. My second reaction was to say some choice words about their lack of communication, lack of respect for my time, and lack of integrity for not keeping their word. And then, I stopped to breathe. Within my blood boiling moment, I had a moment of clarity that said, “Is it worth it?”
And honestly friend, it’s not.
Would I have felt better about putting them in their place and giving them a piece of my mind? Absolutely, 100% heck yes. But in the end, would it have brought restoration or a desire on their part to follow through in the future? Probably not. I’m not a person who cares about position. I care about respect – but you need to earn it. You need to be a person of integrity, character, and honesty, otherwise position means nothing.
So tonight, instead of giving them a piece of my mind, I’m choosing to respond kindly and then continue on my merry way. I can’t change people and it’s not my job to. I’ll continue to be a person of excellence and I’ll continue to keep my word, even when others don’t.
I’m not responsible for them. I’m responsible for me.
Once we realize that, life (and all the stupid things that happen) gets a lot easier to handle.
Take responsibility for your own actions and then shrug off the stupid.
You’ve got this, friend.