It’s almost midnight.
And my brain just keeps going with one consistent thought whirling through my mind.
World, don’t rush me.
Why do we allow everyone and everything around us to rush us? If we’re single, we’re being asked when we want to settle down. When we’re dating, we’re being asked when he’ll “put a ring on it.” When we’re engaged, we’re asked “When’s the date?”. When we’re married, we’re being asked, “When will you start a family or buy a house?” and on and on and on it goes!
What if I want to take it slow? What if I want to be single for a couple more years and enjoy this season that I’ll only get once? And, so what if I’m married for a few years and haven’t had children yet?
Guess what world? It’s OKAY!
What you and I choose to do with our lives and the pace in which we choose to do it, is our choice. It’s not your parents or your extended family’s decision. It’s not your neighbor, co-workers, or even the pastor’s decision. And it’s most certainly not the random stranger you just met in the supermarket who gave you “life advice” because they saw a young person and felt it was their duty to warn you. Anyone relate?
We all go through different stages and we all receive judgements, stares, and sometimes even comments from less than classy people who don’t know the saying, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”
Truly, be yourself folks. Don’t be pressured into a mold simply because it makes others feel uncomfortable. If you want to be single, be single. If you want to date an extra year to be super certain he’s the one for you, go for it! And hey, if you want to adopt a cat before you have children, despite your *mother telling you every other day she wants grandkids, that’s okay too.
At the end of the day, you must please only God with your decisions, and ultimately, you need to live with those decisions.
I’m not in a rush to get to the next stage. I’m learning to enjoy each moment in this season, and everyone will just have to wait and watch, because I’m not going to be pressured to rush anything.
And neither should you.
*My mom is awesome and thankfully doesn’t put the pressure on for grandkids. Considering I’m not married yet, that’s probably a big reason why. haha But seriously folks, don’t let anyone pressure you into anything you’re not ready for!