The Necessity of Loss

It goes without question that loss is a part of life. There are times we experience loss in ways we never imagined – a loved one dying before their time, a miscarriage, a relationship that doesn’t last. We ache, we hurt, we hope for better days ahead.

Screen shot 2015-09-30 at 2.39.08 PMBut sometimes we forget.

We forget that while loss is a part of life, loss also teaches us in the process. It teaches us to hold on a little tighter, to fight with each other less, and to savor each precious moment more. It teaches us to look for the best, set differences aside, and live in the present.

Loss is not something anyone desires to experience. It’s not something we find joy in, but it is a part of life that, if we let it, can teach us how to love those around us in an even deeper way than we ever thought possible.

When loss takes place, it usually cannot be reversed. But if we learn to embrace it in a way that helps us heal and helps us better love those around us, it can give loss a little more meaning.

The loss you’ve experienced in the past doesn’t need to be in vain. Allow yourself to feel the pain of it, just enough that you begin to dig deeper in search of more. You can love and be loved in more than the shallow way that Hollywood and our culture portrays.

There’s no denying that deep love brings with it deep loss at some point, as the cycle of life continues. But I would rather know true, deep, genuine, lifelong love, than to never hurt and never ache and never know how deep love can truly go.

It’s time to take the leap of faith, reader. Join me?



2 Responses
  • Jsu
    October 2, 2015

    Hello Manda! 😀

    Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
    1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT

    True love…(Genesis 24:1-67 )

    It must be fed constantly

    Love is not static. It is very similar to a beautiful flower(like you), it requires to be maintain and water constantly in order for it to grow and flourish. A relationship grounded in pure, genuine and authentic love must be nurture daily, with communication, respect, sincerity, and you guessed it right, with little details…

    It’s not based on expectations

    We all wish our future partner was designed to mesured up to our expectations (super man/woman): Be punctual, procative, charming, good looking, ambitious, brightest, definately not forgetful… on and on you catch my drift. however, to love some one is not to change that person for who they are, into what we would like them to become to fit our bill, needs, wants, and desires. You must love and accept that person for who they are with their virtues and flaws…

    It’s not possesive

    The more you love someone, the more you would like to spend time with them. It’s ok to desire to be with your love one most of the time, but don’t sofocate each other. It’s important to give each other’s personal space. Jelousy is very common on some relationships, for selfish reasons that you only want that person for your self. It shows you don’t care what that person wants,desires, and personal space. Real love doesn’t imprison; in the contrary, it is trustsworthy and allows things to take it’s course naturally…

    Love is Empathetic

    True love is to put yourself in your loveone’s shoes,and set their wants and needs before yours. True love doesn’t seek to harm, put down, coerce or blackmail your loveone in any way, shape, or form. Genuine and authentic love looks after the feelings and well being of whom you are truly in love with…


    God knows your heart and some day in the near future, he may put on your way someone who will be exactly right for you ( Gen 24:15). Not because he will be perfect, or because you are. but because your combined flaws will arranged on such a way that will allowed two separate beings to hinge together. I pray you find a man who knows how to appreciate you as a gift to be received by God, and not some goal to be conquered.

    Have a great night…

    • happilyme23
      October 2, 2015

      Hey JSU,

      Thanks for stopping by. You speak as if you know me, so I must ask, do you?

      I appreciate your kind sentiments, but I’m not sure that you caught quite what I was saying here. This post was to encourage my readers that loss isn’t in vain. Often, we can’t control the situation and thus, we have no choice but to walk through loss, in whatever form it takes. My encouragement to my readers is that even though we all experience loss, we don’t need to allow it to define us. Rather, we can allow it to help inspire us to love even more deeply, understanding that each moment is precious.

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