The Perfection Trap

Let me begin by saying: it’s a myth. No one is perfect, of that, I am certain. We sometimes live in a bubble, hoping we’ll find out differently. We wish for people to not disappoint us, we hope to be understood, and we do our best to be…perfect.

Our society focuses on hiding all of the blemishes. As women, we’re taught from a young age to hide our flaws. We watch our mothers talk about their body like it’s a liability, instead of the work of art it is. We see a society that praises people so skinny all you can see are their bones, and yet, we aspire to be that. We poke and scrutinize our own faces and freak out at the first sign of a wrinkle, instead of appreciating that we are growing into our womanhood.

Ladies – when did we get this idea that perfection was the standard, let alone, attainable? We know deep in our hearts that no one is perfect and quite frankly, that’s what makes us lovable. Our flaws and imperfections are what make us unique.

So while it’s okay to put makeup on before going to work and good to go to the gym to stay healthy, may we never strive for an unattainable goal that will only do two things: It will make us miserable and perfection will make us her slave.

Instead, let’s celebrate the characteristics that make us unique, instead of trying to hide them.

You are the only one in the world who can be YOU. Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.



23 Responses
  • Liz Cochico
    September 5, 2016

    I love this post! We all fall into the perfection trap without realizing that we are already perfect in our own way.

  • Rebecca Bryant
    September 5, 2016

    what a beautiful post. It is so true perfection is a myth and we need to embrace what makes us unique.

  • Enjoyfreebies
    September 5, 2016

    Thank you for the inspiration. It’s easy to forget when all we see are gorgeous fashion models and actresses gracing our screens.

  • Terri Steffes
    September 5, 2016

    Yes, I think I am a perfectionist of a type. Interesting post, and yes, I need to be more accepting of my faults as well as my gifts!

  • Rachel Langer
    September 5, 2016

    I am far too tired to try to be perfect anymore. I just can’t keep it up, guys.

  • taylorannes95
    September 5, 2016

    I’m definitely a perfectionist. I find my husband helps me to accept my faults because of his love for me!

  • Kim
    September 5, 2016

    I have a book- trapped in the thin cage and it speaks to the same thing! Nobody is perfect and it can be dangerous to have that train of thought.

  • barefoot budgeting
    September 6, 2016

    OH how sad and boring perfection would be! Wonderful post and thought provoking for sure.

  • Karen Coghlan
    September 6, 2016

    We may not be perfect but it is easy to expect that of others… Thank you for the reminder…

  • Nicole
    September 6, 2016

    I think every woman is kinda perfectionist in at least one aspect. When it comes to my hubby and son, I am one but definitely not all the times.

  • Ana De Jesus
    September 6, 2016

    I fall into the perfection trap all the time, it is unhealthy but I hate failure. I need to learn that it is ok to be flawed.

  • Wendy
    September 6, 2016

    This is such an important message! I have never really struggled with the perfectionist thing for my appearance, but I do struggle in other areas.

  • Mandy Carter
    September 6, 2016

    Love that quote. I try to instill that in my kids each day to be the unique them that there is only one of. Sometimes it is hard to go the road less traveled but it truly is more rewarding!

  • cvnxena
    September 6, 2016

    Love this! definitely needed this today because it’s easy to forget that we are who we are and i’ve definitely been trying to keep up with everything at the moment!

  • Reesa Lewandowski
    September 6, 2016

    There is absolutely no such thing as perfection even though we think that there may be. You are so right!

  • Robin Rue
    September 6, 2016

    Perfection is something that is held to a standard that we think is normal. We need to celebrate those imperfections more.

  • rosepetalsinthesea
    September 6, 2016

    We were all born of imperfection. This is why I don’t understand how people strive on being perfect instead of embracing some of their imperfections. – HilLesha

  • Positively Stacey (@PositivelyStace)
    September 6, 2016

    Love this! It’s so easy to get stuck in the perfect trap when it’ll never be attainable what so ever!

  • almostindianwife
    September 7, 2016

    I needed this! I definitely fall into the perfection trap!

  • Heather
    September 7, 2016

    I love this! It is so hard to not fall into that trap these days – and comparisons as well! Being comfortable as me is something I need to work on.

  • Diedre
    September 7, 2016

    I love this! I need to share it with my middle school girls as they often fall into the trap. They are constantly comparing themselves to others and not living authentically. Great post.

  • Ashleigh Walls
    September 8, 2016

    Oh it is so true. We are sometimes so overclouded with what others might think that we forget what we think.

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