It always amazes me how quick people can be to tear down your dream. If they feel threatened by it, they’ll tell you it’s not going to happen and that you should do something else. If they feel jealous of it, they’ll try to make you feel bad for wanting to chase something so grand.
And if you’ve already stepping into your dream, people will often point the finger and blame others for why they can’t have the same. They’ll say “You’re just lucky. I’m not.” or “Life just works out for you, not me.” and other contrite things that totally remove the personal responsibility from their own life.
If you’ve ever thought that or said that to me, I’d like to politely clear some things up.
Before you blame me (or God) for why I’m blessed, let’s take a look at what I’ve done to get there. Before you go feeling jealous, envious, or threatened, let’s first recognize we’re not in competition with each other. I’ve made decisions that have led me to this path, as have you. While I don’t know your life or your sacrifices, I know mine. I know the hours I’ve spent reading articles, books, and magazines on wealth and how to get it. I know the sacrifices I’ve made when I was saving money religiously, instead of going out every night like some of my friends. I know the countless prayers I’ve prayed, asking God for wisdom and seeking Godly advice. I know what I’ve done and I know the results it’s given me.
I know that I’ve followed God’s word and held Him to it. I know that I’ve faithfully tithed 10% of every single dollar that comes into my hands. God promises that when we give him 10% of the income/increase we receive, He is faithful to meet our needs. I’ve obeyed His word and I’ve been blessed for it.
If you want those same results, are you willing to do what I did to get them?
What many Christians fail to realize is that while God wants to bless us, we also need to do our part. We live in a world where there are earthly rules and there are consequences to breaking them. If I eat every high calorie food there is and gain a ton of weight which produces health problems, I can’t blame God for not healing me. We have a personal responsibility to care for our body and our financial, emotional, spiritual, and mental states of being. God is not a genie who magically appears to get us out of a difficult situation. He is a very present help in time of need, yes, BUT we must also do our part.
As a young child, my parents made sure I understood personal responsibility. We weren’t allowed to blame somebody else for our actions or try to shift blame. Oh how I wish as adults we remembered these lessons.
I look at my generation – millennials as we’re called – and I cringe. So many 20-somethings wasting their life drinking, partying, throwing money down the drain by wasting it on frivolous things they can’t afford – yet, those same people will be the ones who are jealous when they see someone prospering and doing well financially.
Hate to break it to you, but you can’t have your cake and eat it too. You either play now and pay later or you make the sacrifices, work hard, finish school, save, etc. to make your dreams a reality.
But you cannot “live it up” and then wake up at 30 years old and be jealous of the people around you who made wise choices and have all the things you do not. You cannot waste your time staying up until 4am, drinking until your drunk, and sleeping the day away and then be upset when someone the same age as you buys a house or nice car. You cannot blame God for blessing others more than you, when you haven’t held up your side of this equation. God wants to bless you, He wants to pour down blessings you can’t contain, but He is like any good parent. He wants relationship with us and He will only bless us with what we can handle.
I’ve heard people say “If only I had a million dollars…”. Really? You poorly manage the $10 you have. You think it’d magically be better if you were handed a million dollars? I promise you sweetheart, give it 3 months and you’ll be in more debt than you know what to do with and will have lost that million because you didn’t know how to handle it.
People love the saying, “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” They typically use this phrase when going through a tough time, as a way to try to encourage people. While I typically disagree with this statement, in the context of this blog post, I agree. He won’t give you more than you can handle, inclusive of wealth, if you haven’t proven yourself trustworthy with what you already have.
So, if you want more and aren’t getting more, stop blaming those around you for doing better or for being so “lucky” or blessed. If you want more, do your part. And if you aren’t doing your part, stop complaining.
It’s time that adults grew up and changed the world. I’m doing my part.