You’re Worth More

She was poetry in a world that was still learning the alphabet.

I read this quote tonight and nodded. Boy have I felt that way lately. Have you, reader?

For a while, I’ve been wearing rose-colored glasses. I’ve chosen to believe the lies over what I knew to be the truth. Why? For many reasons. The main one being that I believed the lie that this was what I was worth.

Through a series of circumstances, those rose-colored glasses were removed and I’ve been made so aware of the fact that I deserve more.

I’m worth more.

And so are you.

How often do we settle for “just enough” because we question how much more we’re really worth? How often do we settle for mediocre friendships, a dead-end job, average health, and merely making ends meet financially instead of striving for better?

For the last few months, I’ve allowed my heart to settle for some things that I never should have even considered. I believed the lie that it was okay to settle and had even started to justify my decision to myself. Numerous times, it was pointed out to me that I deserved better and you know what? Deep down, I knew they were right.

But the heart is a funny thing. Once you get emotionally attached to a person, place, or thing, it’s easy to start to change and become what you think you need to be, in order to keep whatever it is you want.

That’s not who I am, reader – but it was who I was slowly becoming.

Your heart is worth more, friend. YOU are worth more. I can’t stress enough how worth it you truly are.

You’re worth more than the friend who only wants to hang out when they have nothing better to do. You’re worth more than the empty promises of a boss who hasn’t promoted you for years but says he will as soon as things get better. You’re worth more than the person who swears they love you but doesn’t show it.

You are worth more!

But it’s time we began acting like it. People will treat you however you allow them to. Act like you’re worth more and people will start to fall in line.

There may be days where you feel like poetry in a world still learning the alphabet, but that’s okay. It’s better to patiently wait and anticipate the best that is yet to come, than settle for less than you’re worth.

I’m exchanging my rose-colored glasses for a magnifying lens. I want to see the good, bad, and the ugly and make the best decision from there. Deceiving or changing myself won’t help make the world a better place and it certainly won’t help make me a better person.

Tonight, I’m actively choosing better. I’m actively choosing to not settle. And I’m moving confidently forward in the direction I know I’m meant to walk.

I can only hope the same for you.



P.s. After writing this post, I found a post I wrote 3 years ago and laughed. Apparently there are just some lessons we need to learn a few times in life. I’m right there with ya, friend. 😉

21 Responses
  • robin rue
    September 5, 2017

    Well, as a mom, I have to settle sometimes. My kids needs and wants come before mine, so good enough is as good as it gets a lot of the time.

    • Manda Joy
      September 5, 2017

      I think settling and sacrificing are two different things. As a mom, I think you definitely sacrifice for your kids, as any good mother does. 🙂 But I wouldn’t say that means you’re settling.

  • Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh
    September 5, 2017

    Being in the business of blogging, I have to tell myself I am worth more all the time. Companies don’t want to pay my worth, and I have to always tell myself to ask for more, or decline the offer.

    • Manda Joy
      September 5, 2017

      Absolutely! You know what your time is worth and it’s important others do too.

  • Angela Tolsma
    September 5, 2017

    Acknowledging our worthiness is not easy but it is so important. I love that quote, will add it to my wall. Also I think this is a ongoing life lesson, but that’s awesome you wrote something similar a few years ago!

    • Manda Joy
      September 5, 2017

      I loved that quote too! It’s nice to know others feel that way too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! xoxo

  • Jeanine
    September 5, 2017

    We need to know our worth. Especially as a mother and a wife. Yes we do a lot for our kids and spouse but we also need to put ourselves first at times too so we don’t forget about our self care and needs.

  • Amber Nelson
    September 6, 2017

    This is such an important message. I think this is something we all have to hear. Great post!

  • Karen Morse
    September 6, 2017

    That is so beautifully written. It’s such a good reminder for all of us. We need to remember that we matter and think about how much we’re worth. I hope a lot of people who are feeling a little low would read this.

  • Jennifer
    September 6, 2017

    I love the quote where you stated that you were choosing better and choosing not to settle. That struck a chord with me, with my family and my blogging “career”. Thanks for the proverbial kick in the posterior.

  • Blessing Divine Boamah
    September 6, 2017

    What a beautiful quote, I’ve certainly given into the lie of settling. When you mentioned mediocre friendships that hit home for me, I’m so grateful that I’m no longer seeing out of rose-colored lenses and I choose not to settle for less. I enjoy reading your posts amanda, I look forward to reading more 🙂

  • Jessica Joachim
    September 6, 2017

    I love this, we really are worth more. It is important to know your worth and not settle for less. We only get one go at this life so better make it a good one.

  • Terri Steffes
    September 6, 2017

    Sometimes it is really hard to feel your worth. Missed deadlines, parties you are not invited to, silent phone. Sometimes you have to really work at it.

  • Melissa Chapman
    September 6, 2017

    This resonates with me because I feel I undersell myself often. I bid for jobs and companies accept my offer so i know I could have gotten more and I kick myself. Someday I will learn.

  • Brittany
    September 6, 2017

    It’s so important to know our worth. It’s something I struggle with as a blogger and a mom. I want my kids to know how much their worth and it’s pushed me on my own journey.

  • Cindy Ingalls
    September 6, 2017

    It’s amazing how life changes when you decide you want better and won’t accept less. If someone isn’t treating you as you deserve than they don’t deserve you.

  • StylishGeek
    September 7, 2017

    Very beautiful post! When I took a brief respite from blogging I was contemplating if any of this was still worth my time. Did I value the effort I was making? And was is still fun to do? After 10 years I can still say yes to all of these. And so I did go back to my blog again.

  • Rachel
    September 7, 2017

    I think this is so true. My favorite necklace says “I am enough”. It is a little sad that I have to wear the reminder.

  • Heather
    September 7, 2017

    You definitely are worth more but recognizing that is the first step!

  • Cassie Tucker
    September 7, 2017

    This is something I struggle with constantly. My husband has to be the one that reminds me that I am worth more than what a lot of companies think I am.

  • Courtney
    September 7, 2017

    We really do need to know our worth! So many times woman tend to put others before them. We need to remember we are just as important!!

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